We tend to encourage ourselves that we have made the right choice and very often succeed in over throwing our own thoughts. We change what we were so sure about that we wanted in our partner and say that we were being unrealistic. By following these steps you can skip the enticing distractions and go straight to finding your treasured soul mate.

Step 1: FORGET THE AGE OLD SAYING OF OPPOSITES ATTRACTS.

Opposites attract, but we are humans and not magnets. Conflict is caused by a difference in opinion, feelings and interest. Everyone can compromise, but till what point. We cannot compromise to a point where it causes us to change who we are. Compromising who we are and what makes us happy by changing completely, can lead to temporary peace, happiness and even love, but will soon take you to resentment and unquenchable conflict.

Step 2: RECONSIDER THE PLACE YOU FIND YOUR DATES

Most commonly people tend to find a date in a bar or some club. These places cannot be considered as a natural everyday situation. Everyone’s attitude and mood is different to what it would be in an ordinary day of their life. Places where you are yourself, this not only including your highs, say a lot about a person. So to use an extreme example: If a complete nature lover is looking for someone to approach in a bar, they would approach the person that attracts them the most physically. Then they will possibly continue with some conversation and this could lead to another date. First dates are usually standardized, the usual dinner and movie. Then a few dates later, they go on a hike. While the one is having the time of their life, the other is regretting even meeting you, while still having to keep a pose.

So the bottom line is skip the bar dating and meet someone at places that are part of your daily life. A place where you are truly yourself, a place where you have fun and place that you won’t just give up for anybody.